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#5 the one about your parents

Honour your father and mother,
so that you may live long in the land the lord your God is giving you.
[Exodus 20:12]

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
2 ‘Honour your father and mother’
– which is the first commandment with a promise - 
3 ‘so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.’  Ephesians 6:1-3

For God’s sake, Honour your Mom & Dad

This commandment can sound a bit Victorian or like a Topsy & Tim world where everything is all prim and proper and safe and ideal. But that's not reality.

HOWEVER it is worth remembering the BIBLE!
So far in Genesis we had the f
irst family experience a brother on brother murder and all the families of the big guys (Abraham, Isaac and Jacob) experiences the problems jealousy, favouritism, anger, separation, long standing resentments, revenge, meanness. Some of this stemming from the decisions to have multiple wives,

For God’s sake, Honour your Mom & Dad

Not for their sake - every parent is imperfect.

Parents can be selfish, demanding, overly protective, inconsistent,  impatient, angry, mean, petty and the rest.

It's for God’s sake are are to honour them. He establishes their authority. (So He limits their authority too - they mustn't force us to sin and they answer to God for their parenting).

So 'salue the uniform' as much as the man or woman! And in many situations there is MUCH about the man or woman we should salute too.

For Your Sake, Honour your Mom & Dad

This is the command with a promise attached: LONG LIFE.

  • there is a natural explanation [Parents want us to live! IF we live the way our parents say, then generally speaking we are going to live longer! Which parents say ... drink/take drugs/gamble/don’t work/swear at teachers/don’t look when you cross the road etc.?!]
  • there is a spiritual explanation - God blesses the obedience of faith
  • there is a deeper meaning - this is a sign we belong to God’s people who inherit the earth.

How to honour you Mom & Dad:

It's a bit more than a Mother's Day card and flowers!

  1. forgive them [we might be someone who has been greatly wronged by one or both our parents. We may well need to begin here]
  2. listen to them [according to Deuteronomy 6:4 and Ephesians 6:4 they are our teachers. So listen to them!]
  3. ask their forgiveness [we fail to listen don't we ... because we don't bother to pay attention or are too proud to ask or we just want to do something our own way]
  4. obey them (when you are a child) [They say 'jump' and you say 'how high'!]
  5. ask their forgiveness [we often disobey them, don't we?]
  6. Speak well (of them to others and to them)
  7. ask their forgiveness [if we have dishonoured them or spoken disrepectfully]
  8. forgive them [perhaps in all our sinning against them they haven't handled that perfectly. Forgive them!]
  9. Care for them (when they are ill or old)
  10. did we mention the need for forgiveness?

The brilliant news is there is forgiveness for failure. Jesus obeyed His Father for us to die so we can be forgiven.

We do need to take care lest we fall. As we grow up and hormones kick in, as we grow up and we want to do more, be more, go out, be out, there will be more potential areas of conflict with our parents. 

God can help us to change: God gives us His Spirit who helps us to be self-controlled, patient and loving.